Making choices has always been hard for my boy. I'm not sure I understand why, but if you hold two items up in front of him and ask him to choose which he wants, there is no thought behind it, no real agency, he merely grabs one to please. I think this has a lot to do with why the whole Yes/No thing is so hard for Oliver. If you ask him a question like: Do you want this? He will normally answer yes. Not because he wants the item but because usually a yes answer works.
This morning, however, I served Oliver up some of my favorite baked oatmeal for breakfast. Normally this is a winner with my boys -- think warm oatmeal cookies with milk!! But this morning Oliver just picked at the food. From my spot at the counter where I was making bread I kept reminding Oliver that he needed to eat before we could do anything else. After about the 10th time of urging him to eat, Oliver stood up, picked up his bowl in both hands, held it out to me and said: "I don't want this!!"
"Oh, um. Ok. What do you want?" I asked him.
So waffles it was.
On the one hand, I was thrilled. Talk about communication! But when it happened again at lunch I started to wonder if maybe communication is over-rated :-)
Not that I'm complaining or anything.